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The Weekend That Just Was :) x

September 12, 2017 thecraftsessions
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What a sensational weekend. It was without a doubt our best yet! So full of joy and laughter (and the odd tear!) and community and connection. And so much fun.

As always the retreat was filled with the best kind of humans, interested and open and excited to be there. All weekend there were interesting conversations to be had, and beautiful making going on in every corner. And the odd glass of wine. And fires and electric blankets.

I have a couple of photos for you today. Only a couple because I am totally cream crackered, but I will be back later on in the week with a full report and all the pretty.

If you entered our The Craft Sessions At Home giveaway and your name is Ruth, Olwyn, Kari or Sian then please check back on your comment and send me an email with your address if you were one of the winners. I spent a happy hour or so tonight reading through all the comments. So many beautiful stories.

See you Friday.

Felicia x

 

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The Craft Sessions At Home 2017

September 8, 2017 thecraftsessions
Shibui on the left and The Yarn Collective on the right.

Shibui on the left and The Yarn Collective on the right.

Hello lovely people!

Well today is the day! - our 5th annual retreat kicks off with it's usual warmth and welcome. We can't wait to greet everyone as they arrive in the not-so-sunny-but-beautiful Yarra Valley. It's going to be a little chilly but lucky for us the fireplaces will be roaring. We absolutely love putting this weekend together for you, and just know you will have a wonderful time.

I know that many of you follow along from all sides of the globe - and send us well wishes that make the weekend that bit more special. And so to share a bit of the love we wanted to share some of the lovely giveaways our sponsors have sent us.

I have two of our beautiful gift bags to give away! They have inclusions from The Yarn Collective, Shibui, Sunspun, Peppermint Magazine, Notemaker and Fibresmith that are all wrapped up in The Craft Sessions bag made for us by the amazing Work + Shelter.

We also have some patterns to giveaway from Tessuti and a gift voucher to give away from The Purl Box.

Special edition Moleskins from Notemaker and beautiful mags from Peppermint

Special edition Moleskins from Notemaker and beautiful mags from Peppermint

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A Giveaway (or four)!

You are welcome to join the giveaway from anywhere in the world. To join in leave us a comment on this blog post - we'd love to hear about the object you have made that is the most meaningful to you. We will close the giveaway on Sunday at 5pm, Melbourne time.

Felicia x

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Our Fear of Going Back

September 5, 2017 thecraftsessions
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Ripped!

So two weeks ago I screwed up some knitting. I knitted this little baby jumper super fast because it was fun - a test knit of the super sweet Iris Pullover by Wiksten - and the speed increased because I was knitting a Stash Less version and I really wanted to see if I could make it work. Joyful knitting - I was fully in the flow of making.

But in knitting it as quickly as I did, and as late at night, I made a mistake. A couple of mistakes actually. Firstly, I forgot the last line of the V pattern on the front of the right shoulder of the sweater. It is more noticeable in real life than it is in the photo. Secondly, I did the decreases backwards around that same shoulder which meant that the nice line you would get around the shoulder looked jagged and not quite so pretty.

It wasn't until I was almost finished, until had sewed the sweater shoulders up, knitted the neckband and had sewn on the sleeve, that I noticed it. That said, I hadn't yet sewn in the ends - but the sweater was pretty much done.

Except that it wasn't.

When I realised, I swore a little, I laughed at myself, I took a photo (to post on instagram :)) and then I quickly pulled it out. Rip the bandaid off goddammit.

What was interesting was when I posted the photo on instagram, the overwhelming reaction I got was to leave it. I reckon it was easily 9 to 1, leave it to fix it.

Everyone was lovely about it, coming up with inventive ways that I could live with my mistake, or cover it up, or creatively embellish it. I wasn't expecting the (lovely caring) response so I almost didn't say that I had already ripped it out.

But I haven't been able to stop thinking about the response ever since.

What is our resistance to going backwards? What is the fear? Or is not that we have to go backwards, but rather that we don't want to admit that we have made a mistake? Do we not want to acknowledge that we have not got it right? Got it wrong even. Are we trying to say "lalala play on! Nothing to see here"?

Or is it the "wasted" time? Are we caught up in the idea we need to be being productive, moving forward, achieving, finishing?

I've come up with a few theories about it, but I would love to understand it better, because I don't think our resistance/fear/or whatever it is, serves us well. Because we do mind when it doesn't turn out how we planned. Even if we embellish it or ignore it. It is (a little) disappointing to not end up where we hoped.

And here is the key - if we are so afraid of going backwards we must be making with fear! Fear of making mistakes, fear of having to go back, fear of living with a mistake. And making with fear must be stealing a little of our making joy.

So chime in and let me know if any of these resonate or maybe you have a different theory? I'd love to hear it.

Is it a lack of experience?

I've written about mistakes before and about ripping for joy. I believe in going back but this is something that I've learnt to do. Going back, ripping out, unpicking are skills I've practiced as part of my making practice. Doing so without any negativity towards myself, or my work, is another layer of that practice.

These days I'm quite good at it. A swear word or two, a glass of wine, a day or three and I can move on without holding on to my mistake. BUT! this wasn't something I could do earlier in my craft career. I suspect there are two reasons why.

Reason 1: Skills

Jenn popped over for a coffee when I was mid-thought about this little sweater, and reminded me that she wouldn't go back because she wouldn't be confident in her ability to fix it. I remember this. I remember not knowing enough about the structure, and not having the skills I needed to redo do something. Actually I probably didn't even have the skills to go backwards in the first place. Play-on was my only option.

This has changed as I have gaine more experience, but I wonder if I would have progressed in my skilling-up faster had I embraced trying to fix my mistakes, rather than avoiding them or pretending they weren't there. Making mistakes and fixing mistakes is the only way to truly understand what it is that you are trying to do.

"A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor" - Franklin D. Roosevelt.

In order to build up our skill set for dealing with big waves we need to practice, first on 1 ft waves, building up to 30ft waves over time. I just wonder if there is a case for throwing ourselves into 10ft waves sometimes for the express purpose of skilling-up? Do we sometimes spend too much time in the 1ft waves cause they feel safe, never gaining the joy and experience of trying something harder because of our fear?

Reason 2: Mindset practice?

At the start of my craft career I didn't have the emotional strength to go back. Finishing something felt like climbing a mountain (more on this in a minute) and so idea that there was still yet another hill to climb was demoralising to the point of me running back down the hill and out of the mountains. With more practice at making we become more emotionally confident about our abilities and more resilient. We have memories to draw on of when we have taken a deep breath and gone backwards, or climbed that extra peak, and how little it actually hurt and how good we felt.

We also come to learn - in the words of EZ - that as we do what we do because we love knitting this (setback) is simply more knitting.

However early on in my knitting career, I think I was also making it mean things like "I'm not very good at...." and "Other people do this beautifully whereas I ...."

Which leads me to some more questions.

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Are we making our mistake mean something?

So when I mention my "failures" in a public forum, which I do fairly regularly, I always have some kind people tell me that I'm being a bit harsh to myself. This idea is always interesting to me, because that isn't how I feel about my failures these days. They simply don't feel harsh.

I've again been trying to train my thinking. My mistakes and failures aren't a reflection of me. They are simply mistakes and failures. They are part of the process, and simply means that I am practicing in the gap like we all are, in craft and in life.

The only way to get good at anything is to do lots of work, spend the time, be curious and make mistakes. Without mistakes we can't learn what we need to to get good, as how we look at the thing we are doing is one dimensional. If we always knit to the pattern, and never have to think outside what is written, then we learn a little. If we screw up royally, and drop a cable, and fix said cable, we learn a lot.

The word "failure" doesn't seem harsh to me because it doesn't mean anything more than that I screwed something up. It definitely doesn't mean I'm a failure. It simply means there is more to learn.

Actually in the case of this little sweater - I think the only learning would be to pay a little bit more attention. Or go to bed on time.

Do we think that going back is being pernickety?

Do we think that going back is buying into perfectionism, buying into the idea that we need to do things perfectly to have value? Are we ignoring "perfect is the enemy of good" to our detriment?

I've thought about this a lot over the years. Being a practicing completionist (ie. recovering perfectionist), I've had to make sure that I am not using fear of judgement as a reason for doing something. But given the strength of the response the other day, and the generosity and concern people exhibited for my well being in the face of going back :), I had another look at whether I was being crazy and buying into the perfectionist narrative. I don't think I am and I'm going to use an analogy to describe why not.

So, say you are climbing a mountain, a small one, but big enough that you are tired and sweaty and hot by the time you see the final peak. You take a moment, have a drink, fiddle with the straps of your pack before tackling that bastard with gumption and resolve. One foot in front of the other to get to the top. You are hot and sweaty and tired but you are also enjoying it. Because you like climbing mountains. that is why you are here; to climb the mountain, see the magnificent sights, feel the breeze and revel in the freedom that comes with being in the great outdoors on a mission. But then this thing happens. Right before you get to the top of the peak, you see in the nearish distance that you actually got it wrong. This peak you saw is not the top of the mountain. Your expectations of being near the finish are dashed, and you feel a little demoralised with a dose of disappointment and exhaustion. And yet, you are here to climb the mountain. You know how glorious it will feel to have achieved what you set out to achieve. And so you take a deep breath, have a sip of water, fiddle with your straps and put one foot in front of the other. To not climb the final peak, because you had to keep going when you thought you were finished, would be to deny yourself the satisfaction of completing your true goal. And who would do that?

I was trying to make a sweet little stash less baby sweater. It was going to be glorious. Yes! I thought I was finished and I was excited, only to discover right before the end that I had a bit more work to do. In this case the work involved back-tracking a little to get on the right track, before climbing the actual peak of the mountain, and the taking a sip of water was actually taking a sip of wine, but the basic story is the same.

By creating the exact sweater I set out to create I get the full satisfaction of getting to enjoy my resolve, my stick-to-it-ness, my dedication and my discipline. I feel like a champ looking at this little sweater. Why would I deny myself the pleasure of achieving what I had set out to achieve just because I had an hour or two's more work to do?

When you are starting out as a mountain climber - like in my example at the top of the post - then there might be a case for running screaming out of the mountains when faced with a new peak when you thought you were done. But I am an experienced climber, with years of walking under my belt and mental practice at making sure my mindset is right. I might need a few swear words, a drink of water (wine!!) and a 5 minute sit-down, but I can totally climb that peak. I know I can. I have practice and experience on my side.

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Are we connecting our productivity to our self worth?

Why don't want to go backwards? Why are we worried about spending an extra hour or two on this particular project? If we are going to be making anyway, why not keep making this thing to get it right rather than going onto something else?

I've been wondering if part of it is that we are connecting our productivity to our self worth. Our cultural messaging is strong around this stuff. Culturally, achieving is what we are told we are on this earth to do. Achieve stuff, kick goals, accumulate, step forward, onward into the breach. Find what you are good at, and make money out of it. Improve your results, your grades, your fitness, your skills. Always forward, never back.

We live in a culture where busy is bemoaned and yet celebrated as the only way to be. How are you? "Busy" the only acceptable answer. Busy achieving and being a good citizen, "being productive members of society".

Going backwards or even simply inertia, are not really acceptable ways to be. We don't answer with "ahhh, I'm just wandering through at the moment" or "I'm being pretty lazy, not getting much done". I can't remember anyone giving me an answer anything like that for years.

Our cultural programming is strong.

And so what messages have we taken on from this "acceptable" way to be? Do we hear that we are only worthwhile if we are producing stuff with our time and our effort and our materials? Maybe we have internalised these messages to the degree, that the idea of going back makes us feel uneasy? Is it that we can't go backwards because it would mean that we had "wasted all that time" making the mistake in the first place? Wasting as a sign of a non-busy, non-achieving, non-worthwhile human?

Being wasteful does not have good connotations. And that seems to be a big part of why people are horrified to watch someone like me (a ripper) rip a whole sweater out to resuse the yarn. The horror is that we have wasted. all. that. time.

The bigger question for me is why do we believe that we have wasted all that time when we have made a mistake?

Because we haven't. We have learnt what we needed to learn from that project, and rather than keeping the thing as a monument to that learning (like my little sweater with the mistakes), we have traded the time for learning.

Can we think of our time differently?

Could we think of the time we used to make the mistake (not wasted!), as time spent invested in our learning?

Could we even go so far as to think of the time we spent as time invested in our pleasure, the pleasure we had in that moment simply being with our knitting. Not necessarily achieving anything but simply knitting?

Knitting has joy inherent in the doing. If it did not, I would have gone to the shop and purchased her a baby present. There is the joy of sitting with an idea, of combining colours, of feeling yarn in my fingers, of the tension of the yarn, of the neat stitches all in a row. There is joy in that moment. In that moment, when I was making the little sweater I was simply happy, taking simple joy in the making. Can that not be enough? Does it matter that I spent an extra hour or two on the sweater?

Can we reframe our thinking about mistakes and going back?

Could we be happier in our making with a little bit of reframing of how we think about mistakes and going back. Not because we are looking for perfection, but simply because there is beauty to be found in spending time getting to the top of the mountain. Especially when we reframe our failures as learning, as becoming better sailors, and the time we spend as time we have invested in our craft and in ourselves, in the simple pleasure to be found in a moment of making.

I'm not saying it's not ever painful. I am saying that with a little rethinking and reframing and practice we can make it less painful and make with less fear....

Thoughts?

Felicia x

PS. If you are scared of ripping back your knitting then please peruse The Secret To Becoming A Great Knitter. Learning the structure of your knitting is guaranteed to remove some fear.

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Our Wonderful Supporters!

September 1, 2017 thecraftsessions
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This year's retreat - which is actually our 5th annual retreat!! - starts in seven days and we can't wait. Every year the retreat has been such a source of richness, inspiration and community to all of us that attend, that it is right about now that we start jumping out of our skins, just a little.

One of the first things we do when we arrive is receive our welcome gift bags and settle into our rooms. They have always been pretty special due to the generosity of our supporters and this year is different only in sofar as they are even more beautiful than previous years. We can't wait to share them with you in our annual "The Craft Sessions At Home" Giveaway which we run on the blog over the retreat weekend. But for now, I would like to welcome our supporters for this year's retreat who have kindly donated goods for our gift bags and giveaways.

We have been lucky, as always, to have a group of businesses join us this year whose values align with ours in such a beautiful way. Organisations who believe in community and who care.

We are thrilled to be supported again by Tessuti and Sunspun, both of whom have been with us from the very beginning. Sunspun are working in conjunction with Shibui again this year to bring you something very special. And in addition to supporting the retreat, Tessuti are also supporting our Sydney Jacket class this year, which is being taught by the lovely Helen. We are really chuffed to have had their ongoing support.

We would like to thank Fibresmith for their support. They are the brand new store in Yarraville, Melbourne (and soon online) from our teaching alumni Leslie Keating. I can't wait to get over there to check it out. Her taste is perfecto and she is a gorgeously knowledgable and encouraging woman!

We would like to welcome Pattern Fantastique back again this year, which is the incredible pattern-making company by our teacher Nita-Jane McMahon. Her style, and her patterns, are just incredible.

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Jenn, Martine, a blurry me and Claire - about to welcome everyone up for our Friday night festivities.

Jenn, Martine, a blurry me and Claire - about to welcome everyone up for our Friday night festivities.

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Love this photo of Ophelie and Bree!

Love this photo of Ophelie and Bree!

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The lovely Lucy, Lauren and Mardi.

The lovely Lucy, Lauren and Mardi.

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I'd also like to welcome back Notemaker (thanks Kimberly!) who last year provided us with beautiful notebooks in our gift bags that I am still enjoying a year later. They are also my favourite online stationary store in my real life.

For the first time we'd like to welcome Peppermint magazine on board for the first time. We love what it is that they do and how they do it - their stories of ordinary people working towards making the world a better place inspire us no-end and we are grateful for their support.

A special thanks to the Yarn Collective who are an exciting newcomer to the hand-dyed yarn market, bringing us beautiful yarn in a thoughtful, ethical way. We are so chuffed to have them onboard.

And finally I would like to say a big thankyou to The Purl Box, which is an online store run by one of our lovely participants Kylie, and the lovely Anita, who stock the most beautiful yarns. I love their store, and feel especially chuffed as after Kylie came to a previous retreat she named a colourway for their hand-dyed range in our honour. Makes me smile every time I see it. Thank you to both of you!

So pop back into the blog next Friday for our "The Craft Sessions At Home" giveaway. It's going to be beautiful.

And thanks again to all our supporters. You really do make the retreat that bit more special.

Felicia x

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Slow Fashion - Enough is as Good as a Feast

August 1, 2017 thecraftsessions
My actual wardrobe. No styling (obviously :)).

My actual wardrobe. No styling (obviously :)).

How we think about what we do as crafters and makers, and how thoughtfully we do it, is changing. Ideas such as those around Stash Less, Fashion Revolution Week, and Slow Fashion October have all lead to changes in how I make, what I make and why. I've spent the last few years trying to figure out what is driving my making and purchasing with respect to clothes and my stash, and have been slowly trying to clean up my own behaviour,. And I've come a long way.... but I've come to realise that I've not yet gone far enough because I keep trying to ignore one simple, but fundamental, idea.

Over the last few years I've considered each purchase - fabric, yarn and store-bought clothes - I make from a Slow Fashion/Stash Less perspective. I (try to) think carefully about what it is, where it comes from, who made it. I ask all the right questions. I consider the psychology of my purchasing ala Stash Less – considering desire, need, fomo, time poverty etc to make sure that I am purchasing the materials or making the clothing item for a valid reason.

Through this process I have come to understand that for me Slow Fashion is not choosing a particular type of ethically sourced clothing, but rather it is a way of thinking about the impact of what we wear. I thought about this so much last year that I rewrote my own definition of Slow Fashion which you can find here. But while I've been questioning and pondering what to buy over the last few years, a quiet question has been lurking in the background, and keeps coming up for me over and over again – simple, quiet but clear as a bell.

For me, the key question of the Slow Fashion/Fashion Revolution movement has become

“do I have enough?”


What is enough?

What is enough? When will I have enough clothes? Will I ever? Surely there has to come a point in time when enough is enough? When I will be satisfactorily clothed for the rest of my life? And is that time now?

What I do know, because it is so very clear, is that I'm already there - I've personally hit enough. Anything I make or purchase these days is excess to need. 

Pinterest, new patterns, marketing emails, other crafters and the wonderful Instagram have opened my eyes to an amazing world of inspiration around making and clothes. And yet

a body can only wear one thing at a time

One body. One thing at a time.

And then did you know, and this one hurts my heart a little, that it's possible to wear the same thing day after day. Variety is not a necessity.

Considered from that point of view, I have enough to last me for a good ten years, maybe twenty years, if I carefully maintain and mend what I already own. I should state here that my wardrobe is not even particularly large by XYZ standards (you can see most of my tops, frocks, jackets, skirts and shirts in the first two photos of this post), but even as I’m writing this sentence I’m concerned that this in itself is a another justification.

So, when does the purchasing stop? Am I using the fact that something is handmade or "ethical" to give me a free pass to make one more coat, make one more top, or purchase one more set of shoes? In our striving for something better, like the mecca of a capsule-slow-fashion-wardrobe, are we ignoring what we already have in, the search for something more us/perfect/cooler/more ethical/just more?

The question - "do I have enough?" -  is what I need to ask first before I buy/make/thrift.

First!

First! before I get on the carousel of justification that I am so good at - finding a way to purchase by making statements like "well it's local", "it's organic", "it's sustainable", "it's small batch", "it's naturally dyed", "I want to support small ethical producers", "I don't have XYZ in my wardrobe".

Or my favourite justification - "I need it".

Really? Need it? Because you don't currently have a grey tshirt? Even though you already have a white one and a black one and a navy one and a green one? Need?

 

Last year I wrote a Stash Less post called Stop Shopping - this is one of the single biggest things I have done to change my behavior. By practicing not-shopping, by not putting myself into the situation where I might be tempted to increase my stash or my wardrobe, I have changed my purchasing. I don't allow myself to be exposed to many of my triggers like “desire for the pretty”, “fomo” and “time poverty”.

And yet when I post about these ideas there is sometimes an undercurrent in some of the comments that by changing my behaviour in this way, I am denying small producers a livelihood. I think this sentiment is one that is used to justify many a purchase, that is not justifiable in a true Slow Fashion world.

We need to support small producers! Well yes, preferably we support small producers that are ethical and thoughtful, over the fast-fashion machine. But maybe what we should actually be supporting is less production?

We justify our purchasing because the materials are ethical and come from a good source that we want to support. I do it too – use the old “but I’m buying from someone doing something good” reasoning, rather than truth which is often that “I don’t need it and am using "ethical" to justify buying something for another reason like "owning the pretty”.

 

It has become clear to me that this question - "do I have enough" is one that I avoid – and I think that I am not alone.

So again I ask myself - what is enough?

Basic environmentalism and responsibility for the earth and the people in it, demands that we think about our resource usage. The golden rule of environmentalism is not “buy lots of environmentally friendly stuff”. The golden rule is reduce, reuse, recycle.

This rule is a hierarchy, rather than a “do whichever one of these you want”. First we need to reduce our consumption, then if we can’t reduce it we need to reuse, then if we can’t reuse we need to recycle. Our focus must be on using less, consuming less in the first instance. And this applies even if the product in question is environmentally, socially and ethically squeaky clean.

I know I sound like I'm stating the obvious but I blur this line all the time. I can start to wander around in these rules even though I know better. I start giving myself "oh well y'know - just this once" or "this is really special" kinds of rules.... And I've been away for the last few months so I've used the "it's a lovely souvenir" justification all wrapped up in a dose of "we can't get this at home".

Nice justification Semple but no cigars for you.

 

I have enough.

I have the feeling that the majority of you reading this will also have enough. Maybe not something for every occasion, but enough.

Consider that once upon a time, back in them ye olden days, people had two or three outfits. Each with a different purpose. They were washed, and cared for and maintained. And those people were OK. They weren't in any kind of physical pain about having less clothing. They didn't feel bereft.

Compare that to a conversation I had over Christmas with a lovely, gorgeous, smart, funny woman I know and love, who stated that in her group of friends they needed to wear something new every time they went out. Every single time. These women were in their early 50s. She said that she had consciously slowed down her shoe purchasing of late, and so now she only purchased 7 or 8 pairs a year.

Wait.... what?

She couldn't stop laughing at the look on my face. You see the thing was, I think she was quite as shocked by wardrobe, as I was by hers. She bemusedly spoke of how she sees that my wardrobe isn't exactly fashionable but that I seem really comfortable in it. Now I should just say that she faces different cultural and societal pressures than I do, but what the conversation brought home to me was just how far our society has moved away from the ye olden days when one had only a few select clothes.

Our excess is gargantuan.

Our wardrobes are no longer small. We have been conditioned to desire variety and more variety. We are conditioned to believe that having will make us happy. And we have more disposable cash available to us, which makes this different way of clothing ourselves possible. Our Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) is reinforced through all that we do and all that we see.

I don’t believe that having more makes us feel any more satisfied - have a peek at this post on desire if you want a high level overview of why this is so. Suffice it to say that if more did satisfy us, then I would already feel satisfied because I already have more, and so wouldn't continue to feel desire for even more. But I do want more, even with all I have.

More didn't satisfy the lovely gorgeous woman in the anecdote I just related. She was feeling stressed by the number of clothes she owned, and the cash it cost to continue buying. She felt stressed by the pressure of having to be something. My suggestion that she just stop was met with mild surprise. It was almost like she hadn't considered that was a possibility.

The other half of my wardrobe. My stuff is on the left. The rest belongs to the fella.

The other half of my wardrobe. My stuff is on the left. The rest belongs to the fella.

This stuff is hard to talk about and think about.

I’ve really struggled to write this post. I started writing this last August and couldn't finish it - it has sat in the drafts box of the blog taunting me for the last year. It is really hard to write about something you fail at and I fail at this on an ongoing basis.

I failed at it two days ago when I purchased a metre of linen I didn't need, for a top I also don't need. Click click click and now that linen is wandering through the skies on it's way to my home without enough thought or consideration. I simply added it to my basket when I was purchasing some things I did genuinely need. It's so easy to do....

I have all I need and yet I make more, and I buy more. I am conscious, I think about it, I ponder my choices and still I buy more, and make more. Not a lot more, but more none the less. And I desire to have even more.

Again, I'm sure I'm not alone.

It would be easy to dismiss this post on the basis that even as I am talking about it, I fail at it. It would be easy to dismiss it by saying well, you haven’t got this sorted, what right do you have to talk about it? But we aren’t required to be perfect in order to have a thought or an opinion. Which is extremely lucky, because perfection is not my strong suit. Nor do we need to have a solution – maybe we can share our struggles as a way to learn more so we can puzzle it out together? I'd love for you all to chime in on this one....

So what do we do?

Making gives me deep joy, connects me to others and supports my mental health, so how could I stop making altogether?

What about the fact that having new outfits I've made sometimes makes me feel snazzy and joyful, which I then take into the way that I interact with the world, creating positive energy through the interactions I have with others. I mean who doesn’t love stepping out in spunky new threads?

And then what about the fact that humans crave beauty? We want to see it, engage with it, immerse ourselves with it. We love new.

Well maybe they are just more excuses .... for there is beauty in old, and there is joy in living our values if we take the time to notice them and be grateful. We don’t need to see less as deprivation. We can practice a new way of thinking.

Maybe there is some middle ground?

Should I stop making? The conclusion I have come to is no, absolutely not. My making practice is essential for my wellbeing. I need it.

But I do need to find personal balance around these conflicting ideas - between what I know to be true about not needing any new clothes, and my need to make and occasionally have something new for the sheer joy of it. Balance in this area would mean that my wardrobe will get bigger but in a Slow Fashion kind of way.

I need to slow my making the fuck down. I need to think about whether I actually have enough of the thing I desire. And if I do, and I am therefore creating it/buying it simply for desire and joy, I need to consider how often I am letting that joy/desire sway me into justifying that making. Because there is always a way to justify having more. Our brains are bloody clever little sausages that are capable of making almost anything valid.

Maybe my compromise is that sometimes is OK, often is not. If I am justifying making a garment simply for joy sometimes then that is OK. If I am doing it weekly then it is not. That is 52 garments a year.

And I still only have one body.

Some of this year's making....

Some of this year's making....

Some was for the retreat....

Some was for the retreat....

 

This idea can be confronting to some people. Who am I kidding, it is also confronting to me. I don’t want to hear it. I don’t even want to think about it. And I don’t want to write it down because writing it down will hold me to account. What is learned cannot be unlearned?

But think about it I must if I’m going to achieve change. I need to up the ante and define what enough is for me personally.

We need to define enough for ourselves.

I believe it is a question I should be asking myself over and over again. "Do I already have enough?" each time I go to make. "Do I already have enough?" each time I go to purchase. Purely to have clarity. So that if I make a choice to buy/make more clothing, I can’t fool myself into thinking it is based on need.

I will make with the knowledge that it is excess to need and I will need to live with that.

Enough will probably be a blurry line. Enough will change over time and won’t be easy to figure out, but I believe it is still worth trying.

So what is enough for you? What is enough for me?
Is it five summer dresses? Ten?
Do I really "need" jeans in every shape?
Do I "need" the latest fashionably shaped sweater or can I make do with what I have? And still feel snazzy enough?

Is making a new garment justified just because I have materials in the cupboard? (Sadly answer: no) Or should I still be thinking through whether I actually need it so that I could use those materials at a later date. (Answer: yes.)

If I'm desperate to make something but don't need anything, could I make for someone I love instead? Could I let that satisfy me? Maybe I could shift some of my making to be more focused on other people through projects like Knit1Give1. Maybe I could up the ante and make things that were more difficult or more long term projects?

Could I find other ways to get what I need when I need it? Can I borrow a frock from a friend if I have a special dinner and not a dress to wear? I know the answer to this one as I actually did this last weekend! And I looked and felt fab.

Are there other things I could do that meant I could still make without overfilling my wardrobe and cluttering up my life?

For me sitting with what is enough is a work in progress and an act of ongoing practice.

The Rules of Enough?

If we are truly honest, unless our house has burned down recently, or a pack of marauding moths has chewed up our wardrobe, most of us already have enough. This means that Slow Fashion – simply considering the impact our choices around clothing are having on the world – is an incredibly inexpensive movement, because we don’t really need much. In fact I'd hazard a guess that most of us don't need anything.

And so like in Fight Club, could we make up some rules?

Like the first rule of Slow Fashion is to ask
"Do I have enough already?"
and the second rule of Slow Fashion is
"Do I have enough already?"
and then the third rule of Slow Fashion could then be
"While allowing some room for joyful making, I must think carefully about what I need. I must then make less, buy less, and when I choose to increase my wardrobe, I will choose carefully and choose quality. "

In the immortal words of Mary Poppins,

"Enough is as good as a feast".

I would really love to hear what you think on this one as it is close to my heart. Do you agree? Is enough, enough? How do we define enough? Do you have a different way of thinking about this? Do you have suggestions for how to continue to have a making practice without violating the idea of enough?

Yours as a work in progress,

Felicia x

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